Why Seek A Serious Relationship with a transwoman?Nov 12th, 2010 | By Admin | Category: Relationship Advice to TO Men
Relationship Advice for TO Men
Why Seek a Serious Relationship with a trans woman?
As this website states an interest in promoting serious relationships between transoriented men and trans women, it is necessary that we attempt provide a reasonable argument in defense of long term relationships compared to living one’s life through a series of short term, primarily sexual encounters.
The first point is this; that sexual satisfaction is but the basest of human satisfactions and that from a relationship a great many other satisfactions can emerge. Feelings of appreciation, trust, sharing experiences to name a few, but most importantly, the forming of a deep intellectual and emotional connection.
When a member of a happy couple passes, the remaining partner does not cry for the lost sexual satisfaction, what connected them and made them happiest together was a connection far more substantial than the superficiality of sexual relations. I believe, that a life which offers at it’s most intimate moments, merely sexual joy, is a relatively empty world in terms of emotional satisfaction.
Point two; that a happy relationship is the cornerstone of a life’s experience, and that what helps to ensure that cornerstone, as a loving and satisfying one, is finding a partner that truly fits with the needs you want to satisfy. To live in denial of seeking what truly attracts you, and by not allowing such a relationship to be built with considerable effort, is to deny oneself the opportunity to live a life in a truly happy relationship.
Point three; I believe that for a man, the heart is drawn to where the eyes see beauty. If one isn’t in awe of their partner’s beauty, then the emotional connection is not likely to be strong. So one must follow their attraction, if they are to feel passionate love. This may appear to be superficial, but keep in mind that tastes vary considerably. A man doesn’t need to find the world’s most attractive person to be intensely attracted, they just need to find the type of person that reflects beautifully in their mind. It’s no secret that heterosexual men, while they might gasp at the beauty of girls in the magazines, can and often do go gaga over girls who by comparison, in the eyes of most, appear relatively plain. It’s that capacity to adore, that enables a man to progress in stages of relationship satisfaction, providing that couple finds compatibility and that they have the character required to build a strong and happy relationship.
Anyone who says love is easy is either a fool or a god. When love finds us, we better be prepared for a tough ride, but it’s the best ride in town.
Kahlil Gibran said of Love:
When love beckons to you, follow him,
Though his ways are hard and steep.
And when his wings enfold you yield to him,
Though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you.
And when he speaks to you believe in him,
Though his voice may shatter your dreams
as the north wind lays waste the garden.
For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you. Even as he is for your growth so is he for your pruning.
Even as he ascends to your height and caresses your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun,
So shall he descend to your roots and shake them in their clinging to the earth.
Like sheaves of corn he gathers you unto himself.
He threshes you to make you naked.
He sifts you to free you from your husks.
He grinds you to whiteness.
He kneads you until you are pliant;
And then he assigns you to his sacred fire, that you may become sacred bread for God’s sacred feast.
All these things shall love do unto you that you may know the secrets of your heart, and in that knowledge become a fragment of Life’s heart.
But if in your fear you would seek only love’s peace and love’s pleasure,
Then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love’s threshing-floor,
Into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears.
Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself.
Love possesses not nor would it be possessed;
For love is sufficient unto love.
When you love you should not say, “God is in my heart,” but rather, “I am in the heart of God.”
And think not you can direct the course of love, for love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
Love has no other desire but to fulfill itself.
But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires:
To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.
To know the pain of too much tenderness.
To be wounded by your own understanding of love;
And to bleed willingly and joyfully.
To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving;
To rest at the noon hour and meditate love’s ecstasy;
To return home at eventide with gratitude;
And then to sleep with a prayer for the beloved in your heart and a song of praise upon your lips.