Want to Know More about Guys who Like Trans Women?Nov 6th, 2010 | By Admin | Category: Articles about TO Men, Relationship Advice to TO Men
Occasionally I see comments from transpinays who are quite frustrated at the shallowness, promiscuous or otherwise general bad behavior of guys who pursue them. This has prompted me to write this note.
The first point I want to make is that women have pretty much been disappointed in men since the beginning of time.
Some quotes by H.L.Mencken on Men
Men, too, sometimes have brains. But that is a rare, rare man, I venture, who is as steadily intelligent, as constantly sound in judgment, as little put off by appearances, as the average women of forty-eight.
The average stupid and sentimental man, if he has a noticeably sensible wife, is almost apologetic about it. The ideal of his sex is always a pretty wife, and the vanity and coquetry that so often go with prettiness are erected into charms. In other words, men play the love game so unintelligently that they often esteem a woman in proportion as she seems to disdain and make a mock of her intelligence. Women seldom, if ever, make that blunder. What they commonly value in a man is not mere showiness, whether physical or spiritual, but that compound of small capacities which makes up masculine efficiency and passes for masculine intelligence. This intelligence, at its highest, has a human value substantially equal to that of their own.
If you want to know more about the capacities of men, read Mencken’s book, “In Defense of Women” here: http://www.io.com/gibbonsb/mencken/defense/Introduction.html
Unfortunately the situation for trans women is more difficult by magnitudes when it comes to finding and hooking their dream partner. A large part of this is that men’s vanity and need for social acceptance means that even the minority who find themselves preferring trans women usually lack the courage to admit it openly.
Another consideration, and one which shows considerable hope of improvement, is that most of these men, who prefer trans women, have encountered them through the lenses of pornography and freak factor type documentaries. This partly explains the objectification and inability to connect as two human souls should.
I’m afraid this isn’t a very optimistic appraisal of the current dilemma facing trans women in their pursuit of a loving and satisfying partner. To say that a few gems exist amongst the rubble isn’t much solace either and may suggest to the insightful reader that I myself suffer from the vanity that afflicts all men.
I think we can be optimistic that portrayals of trans women continue to improve and spread, humanizing them in the eyes more people. Also, the rate of communications between the guys who like trans woman and trans women has exploded in recent years due to the internet and this will surely lead to growing understanding between these two complimentary groups.
As a final statement, may I say to trans women reading this, be patient with these guys, we’re not too clever at this relationship stuff and take a while to catch on. You’ll likely come across a lot of guys who just aren’t ready, but some of them just may graduate one day, or decade. I know it’s been a slow process for me and probably a work in progress for life.
Be glad that there are guys out there that adore you, and hope that life teaches them how to fully appreciate you and to do it respectfully and romantically.
Criticisms and comments welcome! Please don’t be too harsh, just trying to stimulate a better understanding 🙂